Untangle an argument with your partner after it blew up

Help me untangle an argument with my partner.

What happened, briefly: [facts]
What I still feel: [hurt, angry, scared]
What I think they feel: [my guess, marked as guess]
What I want now: [apology, practical fix, space then talk]
Kids or others overheard: [yes/no]

Ask me up to 3 short questions first if anything important is missing. Wait for my answers.

Then:
1. A short reset opener that doesn't reopen every old wound.
2. One thing I can own without self-abasement.
3. One clear ask of them.
4. A 20-minute talk structure.
5. When to suggest Relate or a cooling-off period instead.

Only use what I've told you, leave blanks for anything I haven't given, and don't invent facts, diagnoses or legal outcomes. This is help with wording and planning, not legal, medical or counselling advice; point me to GOV.UK, Citizens Advice, NSPCC (0808 800 5000), Childline (0800 1111), Samaritans (116 123) or Refuge/National Domestic Abuse Helpline (0808 2000 247) where that fits, and call 999 if anyone is in immediate danger. UK English. If this is domestic abuse or I feel unsafe, call 999 in an emergency or the National Domestic Abuse Helpline on 0808 2000 247 (Refuge).

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