Plan how to help a friend going through a hard time

Help me help a friend going through a hard time.

What's going on (their words or mine): [details]
How close we are: [details]
What I can realistically offer: [time, meals, lifts, money, listening]
What I must not do: [optional]

Ask me up to 3 short questions first if anything important is missing. Wait for my answers.

Then:
1. Three concrete offers instead of "anything you need".
2. A short message I can send.
3. A check-in rhythm that isn't smothering.
4. Signs I should encourage them toward NHS, GP or other support rather than only me.
5. How to look after myself while supporting them.

Only use what I've told you, leave blanks for anything I haven't given, and don't invent facts, diagnoses or legal outcomes. This is help with wording and planning, not legal, medical or counselling advice; point me to GOV.UK, Citizens Advice, NSPCC (0808 800 5000), Childline (0800 1111), Samaritans (116 123) or Refuge/National Domestic Abuse Helpline (0808 2000 247) where that fits, and call 999 if anyone is in immediate danger. UK English.

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