Make a blunt message friendlier without losing the point

Make this friendlier without losing the point.

Draft: [paste]
What must stay firm: [the ask]
Relationship: [details]

Ask me up to 3 short questions first if anything important is missing. Wait for my answers.

Then:
1. A warmer sendable version with the ask clear.
2. A version that's too soft (marked) so I can see the line.
3. Words that sounded harsher than I meant.
4. An opener that reduces defensiveness.

Only use what I've told you, leave blanks for anything I haven't given, and don't invent facts, quotes or what the other person thinks. Give a sendable version and, when I've pasted a vent, a one-line note on what you left out and why. This is help with wording, not legal advice. UK English.

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